My husband decided that he has had enough of the military lifestyle. Ever since we neared the 20-year mark, which was several years ago, we have discussed our transition to post-miliIary life. When we were “stuck” by our service commitment, dreaming of our future and entertaining a gazillion what-if scenarios was fun. Who do we want to be? Where do we want to live? Would we choose location first and figure out how to make it work? Or would we choose 2nd career and go where the next job might be?
And here we are now…a retirement date set in the near future, and we are without a plan. Neither firm location nor job prospects. A gazillion what-if scenarios are not quite so entertaining or refreshing when we will be homeless in 6 short months. I am a woman who always has a Plan A, Plan B, and Plan C. Never have I been a woman with No Plan! And that’s exactly who I am at the moment. It’s unfamiliar territory for me.
I better understand why people stay put at their last duty station–Path of least resistance! We are dreaming big as we decide our path forward, but we are also trying to prioritize, be realistic with short-term and long-term goals for ourselves and our children, and always are mindful of finances and responsibilities (Ugh!).
Why don’t we stay in lovely South Dakota, you ask? Ask me this in the summer and I’m all for it. Ask me now as winter approaches, my enthusiasm for this area is nonexistent. I don’t much care for cold, snow, or howling wind. Although if we do stay in the local area, we must move away from the prairie’s edge. The wind is so brutal and unforgiving here where I currently live. I just don’t want to deal with it any more–Since October, I’ve practically lived in my sleeping bag coat!
As we settle into the long winter season, I will be working hard on defining & deciding on the next phase of our life. I’m open to suggestions!